You're not alone here, if you can get the extension bar/short key in, go for it! If you still find the skin in the way as we did, you might have to go the hard way. There are three major problems which come to mind.
Firstly: Access to the bolt and the lack of ability to hand tighten the bolt. We found the advice to cut down the allen key was a great bit of advice, the alternative of a regular headed bolt is a great one but I didn't have one available (if you don't have an angle grinder don't waste time with a hacksaw you'll be there for ages - I learnt the hard way, just find someone you know and have them cut it for you).
Secondly: The angle of the front mounting plate is at an awkward angle making it enter the damper spacer at an awkward angle and bind against it. The front mount plate can be bent a little to cater for the misalignment, we did it by getting the bolt in a little way into the damper and then you can lever the mount point a little so that it lines up with the spacer. Removing the bolt/spacer and 'lightly' smoothing out the inevitable burrs made sure that when it goes back in it does so a tiny bit easier, but worth the effort.
Lastly: Once the bolt is through the spacer it no longer lines up with the threaded rear mount point. Once you've given the frount mount a bit of a tweak and remove the bolt you can probably tell from the chipped powdercoat on the rear mount where the bolt is hitting and accordingly where you need angle the bolt towards. The other thing you can do is to put the bolt in without damper or spacer and mark down the exact angle of the bolt so you know what angle it needs to be inorder to meet the threaded bush and also measure what length it is at when it meets the thread since it will drop in a mm or two and tell you when you'ev got it right.
Once you've got that, get the bolt in and keep moving the damper around changing the angle of the bolt till you can feel that mm or two that the bolt has met the thread. Then give it a big old whack with your percussive implement of choice and then start winding it in and I do mean big whack because it really needs to meet the thread otherwise it feels like it has taken to the thread then pops back out unless you've gotten it to meet up completely. If it fails repeat the "wiggle, smash, wind" process again, it took us about five attempts to get it to take.
It's still a 'mare of a job, but good luck with it!
oh - found March's original post too link here